Before I leave on Tuesday I have an observation and then I will give some background for those who don't know me well.
Observation: In trying to make sense of a world that hasn't made sense to me since Sues passing, I have had many thoughts and feelings that I wouldn't normally have had and there is one that keeps coming back to me. It helps me make sense of my loss, not in the realm of "why me" but more in the area of what makes the world tick with regards to men and women.
Women are the fabric upon which our (western civilization) world operates. They create the social and cultural milieu in which we live. Their relationships and emotions are the cross threads of this fabric. Men tend to think that we create the world we live in and this is true only in our work world. Once we leave work we enter a different place. Our egos encourage us to believe that we create everything but the ego is a devious fellow. He fools us. Women create the overall structure that allow us to have meaning and purpose to what we do.
This fabric is like the fabric of space/time that Einstien envisioned. Planets dent the fabric of space/time as they move though space thus creating gravity. Men dent the social fabric in which we live and when this gravity attracts others to us, we believe we are creators (with a small "c"). It is an illusion, for without the fabric there would be no space to move through.
I always wondered why girls are more difficult to raise than boys. When thought of within the above framework, it only makes sense. Women have an enormous job and it takes a long time and a lot of mistakes for girls to learn what it takes to weave the relationship and emotional fabric that gives meaning and purpose to life. This fabric holds the world together and women so often give selflessly in moulding the next generation, for they teach the girls how to weave and the boys how to operate on the fabric. They also often need to mold their mates to the needs and responsibilities of social life.
I had a lot to learn when I married Sue but she was a persistent and patient teacher and many times I complained rather than thanking her. She created the life I lived in and this journey is about finding my bearings in an unfamiliar world.
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Jon,
ReplyDeleteThis was an interesting view. Beautifully stated. Thank you for sharing. I just wanted to add a comment that the ego is something that I think a person really needs to learn to see, learn to manage, and learn to conquer in order for that person to find true life enjoyment. Now ego in my definition does not mean that you should not strive to be the best you can be and enjoy the moments when one achieves their goals, ego here implies that you are more powerful or better than other people and so do destructive actions to keep yourself feeling that power. An author that I have come to admire is Eckart Tolle. For some people, his writing style is a little too ethereal; however, if you can digest the main points, the insight is invaluable. I enjoyed the "Power of Now".
Us women are pretty wonderful ;) but in all seriousness, I like this concept. As a woman, it's rather flattering to think that! And Sue really was extraordinary!
ReplyDeleteI like these thoughts so far! Looking forward to reading more.